The New York Times has published an article that tells a perplexing tale of Donald Trump’s private dealings with women. Trump, of course, has fired back at the newspaper and threatened a lawsuit for the negative and “inaccurate” portrayal. This isn’t a surprise. What’s shocking—and revealing—is the backlash from the women themselves. Those cited in the article have come out saying they were misquoted, misrepresented, and that they don’t have a problem with how Trump treated them.
This has left many scratching their heads as the narrative that Trump is an abusive misogynist isn’t holding up. How can you accuse a man of abusing women when the women themselves say he hasn’t mistreated them? In fact, there’s a lot of proof that Trump creates lucrative opportunities for women, a point emphasized by his own daughter.
The authors of The New York Times’ article couldn’t quite explain the nature of Trump’s relationship with women (is it abusive or not?) and came to the conclusion that this “contradictory portrait of a wealthy, well-known and provocative man . . . defies simple categorization.”
Donald Trump Uses Women for Power
But the explanation for Trump is rather straightforward if you understand what kind of “ladies’ man” he is. He is the same as another New Yorker who shares his name: Donald Draper from “Mad Men,” the quintessential self-interested user (particularly at the beginning of the show before his journey to redemption).
He doesn’t abuse women; he uses them. He isn’t concerned about love or even respect (those are incidentals to use as needed). He’s primarily interested in power. Whether Americans find this trait unacceptable in a president, I can’t say, but it’s hardly the smoking gun of unforgiveable misogyny that Trump’s opponents are looking for.
They don’t hate women. They love to use them.
Before I continue, in all fairness to Trump we can only paint a portrait by what we perceive from the outside looking in. In this comparison, Trump is not unique—a point that will be helpful to women who read this, so they can be on the lookout for this slippery, well-polished, often charming character. Many men, employers of one variety or another, bear the same traits as “the Donalds.”
Such men have much in common: they are self-made men who describe themselves as “champions of women”; who hire—just as Draper did—women (most of whom are smart and beautiful) because of their work ethic and talent; who take pride in women’s contributions and advance them in their companies; and who admire attractive, powerful, and ambitious women and sometimes hit on them (although not always). Some men do this more aggressively than others—the subtlety of the smooth operator must not be dismissed as being any different from his more boorish brethren.
These men brag about their sexual prowess and desirability, going so far as to imagine that everyone wants to have sex with them and that they’re the best lovers ever (most of the time they’re not); live for those “fleeting, unimportant”…